What’s Bugging You?

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Your mama called she said that you’re down stairs crying
Feeling like such a mess
Yeah I hear you you’re in the background bawling
What happened to your sweet summertime dress

There are times you’re on the verge of hypertension, pulling your hair wouldn’t do much justice. There are times you want reach out, but you’re afraid to bring them down along. And sometimes you just want to be left alone.

I don’t know what’s up, but everyone seems like they’re in a slump, including me.

Now everyone thought a dark, cynical, wicked and carefree NH wouldn’t make this an issue. Sadly, I’m a mortal although I repeatedly tell people I’M PURE AWESOME.

You have to admit, sweeping feelings under the rug doesn’t solve anything. It’s highly likely for you to explode one day. When that day arrives, you will no longer be able to hold your punches, including to your loved ones. What a sad sight.

My advise.

  • Channel it to sports. For health longevity and stress management.

I jog to release the steam packed in my head. Letting it go slowly as I widen my stride.ย  Occasionally I sprint and later found myself flat on the tarmac facing the dog-shaped clouds saying, “Ok, that was stupid! But sure is fun

  • Talk to a complete stranger and make new friends.

They don’t know you, so it’s less likely they’ll judge you or use it against you. Sometimes they can give views beyond your logic. And in the long run, you might make new friends. Just don’t jump to that grinning old man who’s happily staring at your fun bags.

The Don’ts.

  • Don’t sit in your room watching Korean drama for 17 hours straight. Or bury your face in your manga collection. It’ll hurt your eyes.
  • Don’t mull over your work or studies. You can never get rid of emotion with a layer of intellectual.
  • Don’t laugh over it. Your emotion is your ego, handle them with care.
  • Don’t start munching. Typical relief. Once you’re back to being you, you noticed you’re fat. When that day comes, don’t you dare complain about your flappy bat wings. You are what you eat.
  • Don’t talk to close friends. They’ll probably ridiculed you or tell you get over it, worst start bitching so they can shoo you and your problems away.

If else fail, just shut up and get back to workย ย  ๐Ÿ˜›

ps: I don’t recommend the last step, unless you’re used to it.

pss: Listen to that Music! Introduced by SS, soundtrack of House.

psss: This post is not dedicated to anyone, so don’t blush.

pssss: I got an offer from Silicon Valley. Sent a careful rejection letter.

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This Post Has 63 Comments

  1. haiya…reject an offer from Silicon Valley? which company? depends on the case, I sometimes opted for the last step…

  2. OMG..this entry really relates to me now..

    I wonder which steps will suit me.. ๐Ÿ˜•

  3. adakah menulis entri penuh carutan dan maki hamun terhadap perkara yg membuatkan awak marah salah satu cara yg berkesan?

    haha…

    sy slalu tulis entri emo ketika marah…

    dulu2 slalu wat yoga klu stress… tapi sejak diharamkan sy kuarkan balik kasut joging bawah katil yg dh slightly berhabuk tuh dan jogging keliling tasik fakulti kejuruteraan tuh… huhu…

  4. relax bro ..
    u need to attend anger / sulky / moody management course ..

  5. bro, mana you dapat version ni?
    kasik i plisss ๐Ÿ˜›

    when i’m feeling soooo down
    i wish i can call my mama and cry~
    tapi mcm impossible jek ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

  6. wise beyond your years, boy. ๐Ÿ˜‰
    esp don’t talk to close frens, talk to strangers. ๐Ÿ˜ฅ
    but some close frens are good. ๐Ÿ˜‰ if they are not the “advising” type. depends. just chill. kee kee. ๐Ÿ™„
    for me, i like to chill with DVD marathon, or some all night techno. the problem is, it’s hard to find 24 hours clubs with chilled people these days.
    yeah. hmmmm. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

  7. Er.. let’s just say I’m not referring to myself here ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

  8. i like sport…it really work.and munching too. ๐Ÿ‘ฟ but do it simultaneously. baru laa really work.klu x, tu yg becoming fatter…haha.sori ๐Ÿ™„

  9. Ed, sorry, i disagree with not talking to close friends. they are your “close” friends, maybe not as sympathetic as your so-called “strangers”, but in times of need, they are there.

    I used to believe that statement, just to be proven wrong. in fact, my besties are my best listeners, advisors and off load points – better than sharing with strangers that’d sell your secrets.

    but then again, i do believe in the end, words are words. they can’t hurt unless one lets em.

    i think u have trust issues if u cant trust ur besties to help u while u off load your problems. ๐Ÿ˜›

  10. how come the timing of this entry is soo right eh?

  11. actually, not really. I exploded two days ago. =\

  12. Yes, I do have trust issues. In other words, I dont want people around me to look at me with one eye. Hence I dont really share my emotions with my besties. Because what comes out of their mouth usually burns me alive, when all I want to hear is, “Cheer up my friend”, “It’s ok, the world is cruel” or a simple pat on the back. And you know the ego of my boys kan? Same applies to me. EGO FREAK.

    Another way to look at it, we all have problems. I know my besties does and I DONT want to unload mine onto them. It’s a burden to them and I hate making my friends feel tide up. We’re here to chill… so lets chill~

    Now ni.. tade emotional tension. Thanks to the doa depan kaabah, “lapangkan dada seumur hidop aku”. Of course at times I am brought down to my knees. Alaa these things passes, kene endure sikit je.

  13. It has something to do with the moon ๐Ÿ˜•

  14. Dancing in the moon.
    I guess the mood affected you that much,yeah?

    Damn you. The ‘bury inside manga collection’ notion smite me on the dot. Tgh memanga masa itu.Shait. U psychic? โ—

  15. Ed,

    meluangkan masa membaca manga yang diminati mungkin boleh menenangkan pikiran bagi sesetengah orang.

    saya suka one piece. pengembaraan lanun lanun yang takkan jemu jemu walau dibaca banyak kali dalam satu hari.

    hoho!

  16. well, if any of my besties come and offload to me, i’ll fell honoured. but of course, there is a fine line between off loading and using friends. too much of mengomel pun bosan juga.

    i guess that’s the diff between girls and guys. girls tend to be more sympathetic than male-2-male relationship. because men just love to compete. that’s their nature and its written all over in psychology books.

  17. Find someone who could listen to your problem without giving any comments. It is hard to find someone like that but it will really help to reduce the burden in the heart ๐Ÿ™‚

  18. … to me, talking to strangers is therapeutic because I never felt judged by them. ๐Ÿ˜›

  19. fun bags? hohoho, nice way to put it

    i agree, sweat it out is a good way to release that pent up energy. or a food binge. or do both so that u dont feel the guilt later, haha

  20. emo mode? i love to talk to u! wal-la-weh! ๐Ÿ˜† ๐Ÿ˜› *wink*

  21. So I’m guessing, I ain’t no stranger anymore huh.

  22. I somehow feel that your “don’ts” may most possibly apply to how you yourself might not want to handle it. But for other people who find recluse in Korean dramas, mangas, talking to close friends, etc etc, that might be the best way for them (I do agree with not taking comfort food, though). So why restrain ourselves from the things that make us happy while we’re down?

    I personally am not a person who will show to strangers that I am in a crappy mood, or share my darkest moments with them, unless I am in severe physical pain. Again, different people, different preferences.

    Emotional pain usually slides off fairly easily for me, because I do not choose to drown myself in self-pity and despair. It is, like everything in our lives, a choice we make on our own accord. I choose to laugh and be surrounded by people that I care for, and care for me. It is a notion to understand that I am loved and remembered, no matter how hard times are.

    But for people who choose to keep their sorrows to themselves, and have other outlets, I respect that too. After all, we are only human.

  23. eh, adakah ini Kak Zaza yang mengomen di blogspot shayep? saje je tanye.

  24. Yes luv, its me. And btw, ape akak akak ni? Eeeeeeeee. =P

    Anyway, do you mind? Me commenting?

  25. talk to strangers adalah best!

    when things go wrong
    ada masa bleh tahan, ada masa tak bleh tahan
    and itu la yg tentukan the way we act toward things
    tolerance level setiap orang different right?
    certain things yg u rasa nothing mungkin big deal bg org lain
    vice versa~

  26. ๐Ÿ™ lain padang lain lain belalang
    banyak ikan banyak garam
    banyak org banyak ragam

    ps:Allah jadikan jari manusia pun tak sama panjang
    pss:it’s all about how you handle the situation ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

  27. You can never agree can you? ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

  28. Where’s the fun in that? Agreeing for the sake of agreeing, pffftttt.

    Btw..I do agree, but when I agree, I don’t leave comments. โžก

  29. If you resort to that phrase, then the study of human is pretty much useless.

  30. “So why restrain ourselves from the things that make us happy while weโ€™re down?” Because you will never learn how to deal with it when all else fail.

    The points given were adapted from my psychiatrist.

    Zaza, you probably know how to handle yourself since you’re a kid. That’s good. Some of us here, may not be as strong as you. Some even tried to forget the past, but later hunt their future.

    Sure Korean drama makes people happy, but does it really solve your problem? emotionally? mentally? It’s a temporary escape. You might just inject yourself with endorphin then and sweep your feelings under the rug.

    I’d like to think of emotional pain as a computer virus. It needs to be identified, quarantined, delete and patched.

  31. Sekejap je tu bro. Lepas bace komik ape lagi? Hilangkah masalah mental?

    Contoh: Anak ko leukemia, masuk spital. Ko sedih,.. ko bace One Piece leh tenangkan fikiran?

  32. Still is. Sharing to a stranger is enough for me. Tak yah nk ulang2 sejuta kali.

  33. oh, bukan akak ke? sorry saya suka perasan muda. tak biasa panggil orang lebih tua, permpuan, dengan nama. heh.

    anyway, i don’t mind at all ๐Ÿ™‚

  34. oh. main aci cak plak. You really like to my leg dont you? ๐Ÿ˜ˆ โžก

  35. i thougt it’s NH (or at least, the old one) who likes to drop disagreeing comments on blogs :p

  36. er, ya, somehow i feel the “setiap orang ada pandangan sendiri” statement is pretty much, overabused.

  37. When I am in a slump, I jog. I am not sprinter (lelah sket, huhuh) but I can run for long. Up to an hour. While jogging, I go through all the problems in my head. By the end of the evening, the problems magically solved itself (or at least, for the day ^^).

    Playing computer games, reading manga, or watching anime won’t help much, as it will make you feel lonely, feel really empty inside.

    Phone call, on the other hang, can do wonders. Call your loved ones. Use Happy prepaid ^^

  38. ye ke, abang eddie? eceh. geli ai.

  39. Banyak sangat reply komen orang. Nak merasa camna reply komen sendiri.

    Hm. Not fun.

    Bah. Sorry Eddie, for the spam. Jiwa kacau. Hahah.

  40. Jangan mengada. Eddie ni pon same je. Call me Zaza, please. I don’t like using Kak unless absolutely necessary, and right now it’s very, very unnecessary. Unless I marry your older brother, then OK la. ๐Ÿ˜›

  41. Oh come one, you like it when I pull your leg ๐Ÿ˜Ž

  42. Urm, sorry.

  43. One hour? Lame tu. Bagus.

    Agree. a phone call would do great. But still, I prefer talking to strangers.

  44. Owh,terus teringat filem sepi.Nak hilangkan sedih hati kehilangan isteri,si laki berjogging setiap hari.Jumpa bini orang yang chun,hari2 semangat nak jog.

  45. hmm… well this is my opinion though…
    sometimes.. when you can reach to even one person who can just really listen to you… it will at least makes you feel that they are people who cares about you.
    And you when know that these people are near to you, somehow, it will make you stronger.

    hehe…

  46. i do agree. talking to stranger might enough to ease your pain.

    but there is other alternatif. find ‘sahabat’. they’re far better than your besties.

    ps: to find ‘sahabat’ like Saidina Abu Bakar (our prophet Muhammad’s sahabat) is difficult but not impossible.

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