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Why I Use Kakak?

“Kak, yang ni tade warne lain?”

She glared deeply, frustrated with the way I addressed her.

I noticed some (actually all) girls don’t like to be referred to as Kakak, it makes them feel old. Most girls are age conscious. They slapped on all these layers on anti-aging creams, Olay, SK II and what not, the least they’d expect is for someone who is obviously is much older, calling them Kakak. They had it aligned with the voodoo word, Andartu. Such a disgrace!

I use Kakak to show my respect. Adik is a classic term, equivalent to “Darling” or “Honey” but referred to female counterpart in a relationship. Examples can be found in classic Malay songs, “Mari-mari cik Adik. Mari-mari cik Abang~” which is sooo,.. EUW!

Similarly calling me Abang, again, EUW!

To every females out there, if a guy addresses you as Kakak, don’t be offended. Rest assured you have his highest utmost respect (other than the fact that you really do look old).

ps: Enjoy your Friday! Badminton anyone?

pss: Wicked!

Written on 10 April '09 under Jokes
 

There are 66 Comments for “Why I Use Kakak?”

Oh. I like people calling me Kak (like what you did to me sometimes. Padahal I’m younger ok). :grin: When they call me Kak, literally means that I’m respected at any given situations. As simple as that.

Oh. Abang Eddie? No no. :eek:

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Sarah replied #1

Macam belit-belit je ayat saya ni. Harap faham ye Eddie. Hehe.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Abang Eddie? NOOOOO!!!~~ Only my youngest bro can call me that (substitute the word Eddie of course).

Faham. I do respect you Sarah. Although you are definitely younger, your maturity level is way beyond my grasp. It’ll come in handy when you meet your soon to be in laws :P

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Sarah replied #1

Oh. Amin… Hihi. Tapi entah bila la nak jumpa in laws to be tu.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Nak alamat? :grin: :grin: :grin:


Bagak replied #1

Ko tau alamat penuh umah aku kan, bro? kasi la kat Sarah…hehehe


NoktahHitam replied #1

Eh bro, ambil nombor la. Mane bole potong2 je queue :eek: :lol:


Sarah wrote on April 10, 2009 #1

wahah. agreed with KS. suka aje kalau orang panggil “kakak”. TAPI, kalau untuk kes diya, hanya dibenarkan untuk lelaki sahaja yang boleh called me kakak. lelaki JER okeh. perempuan, boleh blah. hak hak hak.

kalau tak, by the right she said “kakak”, kite akan tengok dia macam nak telan orang time tu jugak. huh. say kakak once again, i cekik you!

p/s-except for my family, cousins and relatives. they used to call me “kakak” as always.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Kak Diya!

Non of my relative calls me Abang. It really irks me! We usually call family nicknames, which of course I won’t be telling you mine :P

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Sarah replied #1

Oh. I wonder how does it sound like. Usually, family nicknames are always a bit funny.Terasa macam tau. Tapi macam dah lupa. Ke memang tak pernah tau ye? Huhu.

p/s: Mungkinkah Awin? Hahahah. Ok. Kidding. :razz:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Very close. I think I’ve told you before. (you’re not 26 yet, how can you forget! Hahaha)


aisyahkama replied #1

Ewin kot?


NoktahHitam replied #1

Ahaaa we have winner! :smile:


Sarah replied #1

You know what did I do last night? I checked all the chatlogs in Gtalk. Muahaha. But I thought you don’t want people to know it. Hence I’m not posting it up here. So, saya dengan Aisyahkama seri la ye. :grin:


NoktahHitam replied #1

Final year student memang tak payah study dah ke? You sure have a lot of spare time. Jom lawan scrabble on YM!


Sarah replied #1

FYI, I haven’t slept since the past 2 days. Can you imagine how my eyes are? Badly sunken. Macam panda! :???:

p/s: Setakat berapa kerat je chatlog tu, takde masalah.
p/ss: Scrabble on YM? Tunggu 2 bulan je lagi ok. 2 bulan je lagi! :smile:


NoktahHitam replied #1

Eh! Bole gang la kite. But then again, I don’t have an eye bag. So nothing much to worry. Once I’m done with Friday prayers, I’ll sleep the whole evening, weee~

ps: 2 bulan lagi? Mengasah bakat dulu? Bahaye ni.


Sarah replied #1

Bukan nak buat preparation nak lawan scrabble dengan awak. But I’ll graduating in 2 months time. Lepas tu dah bebas dari segala exam mak nenenk ni ^____^


Sarah replied #1

*I’ll be graduating.

Time tu baru boleh on YM balik. Lama dah berhibernasi YM tu. Huhu.


diya wrote on April 10, 2009 #2

Yup, similarly to us girls, kalau kate camni “Abang, bagi air laici satu.” Some percieve that as gedik whereas takde niat pun.

So next time eddie, to be safe ; cube kate camni ” Ermmm…yang ni takde warne lain? ”

Both sides are happy. Problem solved! ^^

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Gedik! I was looking for that word!

I give you 2 sentences.

“Dik, bagi ice cream satu!” and “Kak, bagi ice cream satu”, which one should I use for you? Hahaha

Errmmm tu sungguh tak ke-timur-an. It’s either Kak or Makcik, nothing lower.

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snv replied #1

“It’s either Kak or Makcik, nothing lower.”

Thats fine for the girls, what about what to call guys?

Its either __?__ or Pakcik.

I end up getting straight to the point with either start with a salam (or ‘excuse me’), or in some cases, use Encik (situation/location dependant).

But like the previous comments, I’d rather guys (strangers) to refer to me as kak. Unless if we are already acquainted, by name without the prefix-kak is much more preferable (applies to both gender I guess).

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Call “Dik” or “Uncle”. Don’t use Pakcik, it’s kind of offensive to some. Unless he’s really old.


lyana wrote on April 10, 2009 #3

Saye boleh panggil awak abang kan ?
Sebab .. awk kan abang saye .. :)
:up: :up:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Bole bole. Janji jangan sebut Abang dgn manje, nanti aku tumbuk ko. Hahaha.

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aisyahkama replied #1

nak panggil abang jugak… hahaha :razz:

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oDiN wrote on April 10, 2009 #4

sib baik tak call them ‘makcik’ kan kannns.. ekeke

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en_me wrote on April 10, 2009 #5

i usually refer to guys as Uncle instead of Abang (kalau abang, kang mule la menggataii esp bus drivers wahaha)

most of them seem ok with it n not offended but if i use Pakcik, some get offended hehehee

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waniee wrote on April 10, 2009 #6

dulu, aku kisah SANGAT kalau orang panggil aku ‘kakak’, terutamanya orang yg aku rasa dia lebih berusia dari aku.

tapi, sekarang ni, aku suka kalau orang panggil aku kakak.

Terasa mcm orang hormat pada kita.

Getting older, maybe?
Huhuhu..

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NoktahHitam replied #1

CS, nah.. not because you’re older, but you’re definitely wiser and mature.

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cik simpankira replied #1

wiser and mature?
eh, ye ke?

:mrgreen:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

I do think so.


cik simpankira wrote on April 10, 2009 #7

nasib baik tak dipanggil kau pak cik.. ada kanak2 riang panggil aku pak cik.. adekah tua aku ini..?? btw.. abang..??!! eeeeeuuuwww… :mrgreen:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Die nak manje2 dgn ko. Lain kali ko hulur tangan, petik2 jari, sambil cakap, Meow meow. Tgk camne die respond :grin: :grin:

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nikillas wrote on April 10, 2009 #8

Aku pernah panggil kakak dekat sales girl, tp lepas bayar dia ckp “terima kasih pakcik”, aku yg terkedu :!:

ps:alamak tua ker aku ni :roll:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Die main mate tak? :smile: :smile:

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haritz replied #1

dia tak main mata plak, tapi tersengih2 mcm kerang busuk :mrgreen:

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Sarah replied #1

Huhu. Dia balas dendam cara terhormat

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haritz replied #1

Aduh terasa kehinaan itu muahaha :grin:

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haritz wrote on April 10, 2009 #9

bagi aku ia suatu penghargaan dan penghormatan kepada yang lebih berpengalaman dan matang dalam hidup mereka.

tapi jika seorang perempuan yang lebih dewasa dari aku tapi perangai cam bebudak, aku abaikan panggilan tu.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

“tapi jika seorang perempuan yang lebih dewasa dari aku tapi perangai cam bebudak” … aku panggil HOI! HAHAHAHA

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megat wrote on April 10, 2009 #10

panggil kakak takpe lagi..

tapi kalau panggil puan, ta boleh terima sikit.
I’m NOT married yet laaa.. :cry:

wuwu~

p.s ini semua akibat tekanan dari students yang paksa kawen. ces~

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NoktahHitam replied #1

PUAN? OMG! cacat sungguh!

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bulan replied #1

I think most of us don’t know that ‘puan’ is the title that can be used for a woman regardless if she’s married or not…’Puan’ & ‘Cik’ can be used interchangeably..both are used as a polite way of speaking to a woman…I read this in Dewan Sastera or Dewan Siswa some 10 years ago…
Anyway, when I’m old and it doesn’t sound right calling me “kak”…I would prefer people to address me as ‘puan’ rather than makcik…I think…hehehe

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Noted, Doctor ;)

(I didn’t know Puan and Cik can be used for both married and unmarried. I’ve never used either!)

ps: New around here?


bulan replied #1

yup2…ur friend Lare recommended this blog!


NoktahHitam replied #1

Did he also slip in some good words about me? LoL!

ps: Monash eh?


bulan replied #1

hahaha…
Monash it is…


cikpin wrote on April 10, 2009 #11

kita jenis tak kisah.. nak panggil nenek pun hentam la.. haha.. tapi untung bagi yang tau eddie. bagi yang tak tau sebab kenapa awak panggil diorang kakak macam mana? :wink:

in my case, i always use sis or bro.. tapi ada jugak la yang tak pahey.. cets

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nono wrote on April 10, 2009 #12

ooo..jgn nak panggil kak jie ‘makcik’ sudeh!

he he he… :grin:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

HEHEHEHE.. Perasan mude cik puan sorg ni! Kak Jie tak bole, Bonda Jie bole? Bunyi jawa-bugis sikit.

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Kujie wrote on April 10, 2009 #13

I think it depends on how old the person who’s addressing u by that title…kalo diorg obviously looks older I wouldn’t like being called kak either…senang2 x yah panggil pape..

As for guys, now that I’m getting older, I find it easier to address them ‘dik’…tp bape ramai laa sgt guys yg sesuai dipanggil ‘dik’ pon…I think calling guys ‘dik’ removes the awkwardness…xde laaa budak tuh conscious tersipu2 plak kalo kite mintak pape…it’s becoming a habit calling guys ‘dik’ smp ade skali tuh my sister was like, “he’s obviously older than u!”(I think he’s at least 5 yrs older)

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bulan wrote on April 10, 2009 #14

hahaha..me also one of the others who don’t want to be call as kakak..seriously make me feel lie an old lady . btw this year like it or not I need to accept it when the guys call me kakak..Coz this year I start to realize I’m getting older than last year.(ssh betul nak terima kenyataan) :sad:

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teecey wrote on April 10, 2009 #15

Painfully spot on.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

So which do you prefer, Kakak or Makcik? :roll: :razz:

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Zubaidah Arshad replied #1

Stick to akak is much better.

Tapi say I have to deal with a male, I’ll address them abang.

Cute, yes?

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Zubaidah Arshad wrote on April 10, 2009 #16

betul…betul…betul…bagi saya juga…saya akan panggil akak/kakak utk pompuan yang saya tau dia tua dar saya aau dia muda tapi sudah berkahwin…semua tu sebagai tanda saya respek mereka…kadang2 terfikir juga diorang marah ke tidak sebab saya sentiasa berurusan dengan mereka (akak2 perpustakaan) dengan panggilan itu…saya juga akan panggil akak kalau saya lihat fizikalnya seperti emak budak (jika org itu saya baru kenal lah)… =)

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firdee wrote on April 10, 2009 #17

kalo membeli ke…ade urusan rasmi kat bank or pjbt krjaan..etc,..elok pakai ‘cik’ je . tak pun, ‘miss’..
lebih formal. :cool:

i can guarantee, no one will get mad.hoho :wink:

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k3i wrote on April 11, 2009 #18

I have never felt offended when I’m referred to as Kak :) In fact sebenarnya I prefer it that way. It immediately puts me at ease because I know that I can count on this guy not to make lewd jokes or pandang/sengih pelik sampai rasa uncomfortable. Setuju, I take it as a sign of respect.

But I suppose it has a lot to do with the way people say it kot. Boleh je guna ‘adik’ or ‘abang’ without sounding gatal and what not. But to be on the safe side I make it a point to use ‘Encik’ instead :)

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Azza wrote on April 11, 2009 #19

betul..kakak is the best to use

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cG wrote on April 11, 2009 #20

aah. pelik aku. diorang marah. Pastu. wat muka geram.., :twisted:

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titan wrote on April 11, 2009 #21

akaqqqq jugakkk. heeh :)

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KNizam wrote on April 11, 2009 #22

semestinya akak pilihan aku kalau berdepan dgn pompuan yang aku xtau asal usul die.sbg menunjukkan rasa hormat..

kadang2, depends juga pada muka.pernah terjadi, aku jumpa sorang relative nih, muka die dah mcm umo 50-an dah…tanpa segan silu aku panggil die ‘acik’.
rupanya die kazen aku, umo baru 30 this year.

penangan botox. :mrgreen:

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spatt wrote on April 12, 2009 #23

now, saya panggil orang adik. :) if kat kedai, if nak mintak orang kedai tu tolong, i use ‘adik’.

selalunya i try to avoid using ‘kakak or abang’

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buzzybug wrote on April 14, 2009 #24

Kakak for me is, as you said, a sign of respect, irregardless of married or not. These days, we can’t really tell their faces, thanks to the cosmetics, so the safest way is to call em ‘kak’. But I’m particular if they refer me as ‘Puan’ when they knew that I still hold ‘Cik’.

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zara wrote on April 16, 2009 #25

i hate the fact that when calling someone as abang/adik can sounds so euuuwww. but what if dah takde nama lain nak panggil them? takkan nak panggil “bro”. HAHA.

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sya wrote on April 19, 2009 #26

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