• NH and friends NoktahHitam is my alter ego. I am a nocturnal Web Developer at Laman7. Part time innovator, full time procrastinator.

  • “The only good is knowledge; the only evil is ignorance.”- Socrates

What’s Bugging You?

http://tape.noktahhitam.com/songs/Amos_Lee_-_Colors.mp3

Your mama called she said that you’re down stairs crying
Feeling like such a mess
Yeah I hear you you’re in the background bawling
What happened to your sweet summertime dress

There are times you’re on the verge of hypertension, pulling your hair wouldn’t do much justice. There are times you want reach out, but you’re afraid to bring them down along. And sometimes you just want to be left alone.

I don’t know what’s up, but everyone seems like they’re in a slump, including me.

Now everyone thought a dark, cynical, wicked and carefree NH wouldn’t make this an issue. Sadly, I’m a mortal although I repeatedly tell people I’M PURE AWESOME.

You have to admit, sweeping feelings under the rug doesn’t solve anything. It’s highly likely for you to explode one day. When that day arrives, you will no longer be able to hold your punches, including to your loved ones. What a sad sight.

My advise.

  • Channel it to sports. For health longevity and stress management.

I jog to release the steam packed in my head. Letting it go slowly as I widen my stride.  Occasionally I sprint and later found myself flat on the tarmac facing the dog-shaped clouds saying, “Ok, that was stupid! But sure is fun

  • Talk to a complete stranger and make new friends.

They don’t know you, so it’s less likely they’ll judge you or use it against you. Sometimes they can give views beyond your logic. And in the long run, you might make new friends. Just don’t jump to that grinning old man who’s happily staring at your fun bags.

The Don’ts.

  • Don’t sit in your room watching Korean drama for 17 hours straight. Or bury your face in your manga collection. It’ll hurt your eyes.
  • Don’t mull over your work or studies. You can never get rid of emotion with a layer of intellectual.
  • Don’t laugh over it. Your emotion is your ego, handle them with care.
  • Don’t start munching. Typical relief. Once you’re back to being you, you noticed you’re fat. When that day comes, don’t you dare complain about your flappy bat wings. You are what you eat.
  • Don’t talk to close friends. They’ll probably ridiculed you or tell you get over it, worst start bitching so they can shoo you and your problems away.

If else fail, just shut up and get back to work   :razz:

ps: I don’t recommend the last step, unless you’re used to it.

pss: Listen to that Music! Introduced by SS, soundtrack of House.

psss: This post is not dedicated to anyone, so don’t blush.

pssss: I got an offer from Silicon Valley. Sent a careful rejection letter.

 

There are 63 Comments for “What’s Bugging You?”

haiya…reject an offer from Silicon Valley? which company? depends on the case, I sometimes opted for the last step…

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|1f34|-|1r3 wrote on December 2, 2008 #1

OMG..this entry really relates to me now..

I wonder which steps will suit me.. :???:

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inah wrote on December 2, 2008 #2

adakah menulis entri penuh carutan dan maki hamun terhadap perkara yg membuatkan awak marah salah satu cara yg berkesan?

haha…

sy slalu tulis entri emo ketika marah…

dulu2 slalu wat yoga klu stress… tapi sejak diharamkan sy kuarkan balik kasut joging bawah katil yg dh slightly berhabuk tuh dan jogging keliling tasik fakulti kejuruteraan tuh… huhu…

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shandye wrote on December 2, 2008 #3

relax bro ..
u need to attend anger / sulky / moody management course ..

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Er.. let’s just say I’m not referring to myself here :eek:

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oDiN wrote on December 2, 2008 #4

bro, mana you dapat version ni?
kasik i plisss :razz:

when i’m feeling soooo down
i wish i can call my mama and cry~
tapi mcm impossible jek :cry:

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sootsprite wrote on December 2, 2008 #5

wise beyond your years, boy. ;)
esp don’t talk to close frens, talk to strangers. :cry:
but some close frens are good. ;) if they are not the “advising” type. depends. just chill. kee kee. :roll:
for me, i like to chill with DVD marathon, or some all night techno. the problem is, it’s hard to find 24 hours clubs with chilled people these days.
yeah. hmmmm. :cool:

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Jed Yoong wrote on December 3, 2008 #6

i like sport…it really work.and munching too. :evil: but do it simultaneously. baru laa really work.klu x, tu yg becoming fatter…haha.sori :roll:

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omar wrote on December 3, 2008 #7

Ed, sorry, i disagree with not talking to close friends. they are your “close” friends, maybe not as sympathetic as your so-called “strangers”, but in times of need, they are there.

I used to believe that statement, just to be proven wrong. in fact, my besties are my best listeners, advisors and off load points – better than sharing with strangers that’d sell your secrets.

but then again, i do believe in the end, words are words. they can’t hurt unless one lets em.

i think u have trust issues if u cant trust ur besties to help u while u off load your problems. :P

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Yes, I do have trust issues. In other words, I dont want people around me to look at me with one eye. Hence I dont really share my emotions with my besties. Because what comes out of their mouth usually burns me alive, when all I want to hear is, “Cheer up my friend”, “It’s ok, the world is cruel” or a simple pat on the back. And you know the ego of my boys kan? Same applies to me. EGO FREAK.

Another way to look at it, we all have problems. I know my besties does and I DONT want to unload mine onto them. It’s a burden to them and I hate making my friends feel tide up. We’re here to chill… so lets chill~

Now ni.. tade emotional tension. Thanks to the doa depan kaabah, “lapangkan dada seumur hidop aku”. Of course at times I am brought down to my knees. Alaa these things passes, kene endure sikit je.

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mlle linie replied #1

well, if any of my besties come and offload to me, i’ll fell honoured. but of course, there is a fine line between off loading and using friends. too much of mengomel pun bosan juga.

i guess that’s the diff between girls and guys. girls tend to be more sympathetic than male-2-male relationship. because men just love to compete. that’s their nature and its written all over in psychology books.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

ha! tau pon :razz:


mlle linie wrote on December 3, 2008 #8

how come the timing of this entry is soo right eh?

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Aisyah replied #1

actually, not really. I exploded two days ago. =\

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NoktahHitam replied #1

It has something to do with the moon :???:

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Aisyah wrote on December 3, 2008 #9

Dancing in the moon.
I guess the mood affected you that much,yeah?

Damn you. The ‘bury inside manga collection’ notion smite me on the dot. Tgh memanga masa itu.Shait. U psychic? :!:

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kidd wrote on December 3, 2008 #10

Ed,

meluangkan masa membaca manga yang diminati mungkin boleh menenangkan pikiran bagi sesetengah orang.

saya suka one piece. pengembaraan lanun lanun yang takkan jemu jemu walau dibaca banyak kali dalam satu hari.

hoho!

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Sekejap je tu bro. Lepas bace komik ape lagi? Hilangkah masalah mental?

Contoh: Anak ko leukemia, masuk spital. Ko sedih,.. ko bace One Piece leh tenangkan fikiran?

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Medea wrote on December 3, 2008 #11

Find someone who could listen to your problem without giving any comments. It is hard to find someone like that but it will really help to reduce the burden in the heart :)

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hafiz wrote on December 3, 2008 #12

… to me, talking to strangers is therapeutic because I never felt judged by them. :razz:

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nono wrote on December 3, 2008 #13

fun bags? hohoho, nice way to put it

i agree, sweat it out is a good way to release that pent up energy. or a food binge. or do both so that u dont feel the guilt later, haha

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thebanker wrote on December 3, 2008 #14

emo mode? i love to talk to u! wal-la-weh! :lol: :razz: *wink*

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aisyahkama wrote on December 3, 2008 #15

So I’m guessing, I ain’t no stranger anymore huh.

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MK replied #1

eh, adakah ini Kak Zaza yang mengomen di blogspot shayep? saje je tanye.

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Zaza replied #1

Yes luv, its me. And btw, ape akak akak ni? Eeeeeeeee. =P

Anyway, do you mind? Me commenting?

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MK replied #1

oh, bukan akak ke? sorry saya suka perasan muda. tak biasa panggil orang lebih tua, permpuan, dengan nama. heh.

anyway, i don’t mind at all :)

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Confirm die akak :grin:


MK replied #1

ye ke, abang eddie? eceh. geli ai.


Zaza replied #1

Jangan mengada. Eddie ni pon same je. Call me Zaza, please. I don’t like using Kak unless absolutely necessary, and right now it’s very, very unnecessary. Unless I marry your older brother, then OK la. :razz:


NoktahHitam replied #1

Still is. Sharing to a stranger is enough for me. Tak yah nk ulang2 sejuta kali.

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Syam replied #1

i do agree. talking to stranger might enough to ease your pain.

but there is other alternatif. find ‘sahabat’. they’re far better than your besties.

ps: to find ‘sahabat’ like Saidina Abu Bakar (our prophet Muhammad’s sahabat) is difficult but not impossible.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Sahabat? More like apostle. Thats a bit hard to find.

Ala syam, between you and me, we’re still stranger. I dont judge you, you dont judge me, we live happily.

Jap, we’re not strangers. HAHAHA. Acquaintance or friends maybe.


Zaza wrote on December 3, 2008 #16

I somehow feel that your “don’ts” may most possibly apply to how you yourself might not want to handle it. But for other people who find recluse in Korean dramas, mangas, talking to close friends, etc etc, that might be the best way for them (I do agree with not taking comfort food, though). So why restrain ourselves from the things that make us happy while we’re down?

I personally am not a person who will show to strangers that I am in a crappy mood, or share my darkest moments with them, unless I am in severe physical pain. Again, different people, different preferences.

Emotional pain usually slides off fairly easily for me, because I do not choose to drown myself in self-pity and despair. It is, like everything in our lives, a choice we make on our own accord. I choose to laugh and be surrounded by people that I care for, and care for me. It is a notion to understand that I am loved and remembered, no matter how hard times are.

But for people who choose to keep their sorrows to themselves, and have other outlets, I respect that too. After all, we are only human.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

You can never agree can you? :twisted:

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Zaza replied #1

Where’s the fun in that? Agreeing for the sake of agreeing, pffftttt.

Btw..I do agree, but when I agree, I don’t leave comments. :arrow:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

oh. main aci cak plak. You really like to my leg dont you? :twisted: :arrow:


MK replied #1

i thougt it’s NH (or at least, the old one) who likes to drop disagreeing comments on blogs :p

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Not all the time.


NoktahHitam replied #1

“So why restrain ourselves from the things that make us happy while we’re down?” Because you will never learn how to deal with it when all else fail.

The points given were adapted from my psychiatrist.

Zaza, you probably know how to handle yourself since you’re a kid. That’s good. Some of us here, may not be as strong as you. Some even tried to forget the past, but later hunt their future.

Sure Korean drama makes people happy, but does it really solve your problem? emotionally? mentally? It’s a temporary escape. You might just inject yourself with endorphin then and sweep your feelings under the rug.

I’d like to think of emotional pain as a computer virus. It needs to be identified, quarantined, delete and patched.

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Zaza replied #1

Oh come one, you like it when I pull your leg :cool:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Not every minute of the day.

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Zaza replied #1

Urm, sorry.


Zaza wrote on December 3, 2008 #17

talk to strangers adalah best!

when things go wrong
ada masa bleh tahan, ada masa tak bleh tahan
and itu la yg tentukan the way we act toward things
tolerance level setiap orang different right?
certain things yg u rasa nothing mungkin big deal bg org lain
vice versa~

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sootsprite wrote on December 3, 2008 #18

:sad: lain padang lain lain belalang
banyak ikan banyak garam
banyak org banyak ragam

ps:Allah jadikan jari manusia pun tak sama panjang
pss:it’s all about how you handle the situation :eek:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

If you resort to that phrase, then the study of human is pretty much useless.

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MK replied #1

er, ya, somehow i feel the “setiap orang ada pandangan sendiri” statement is pretty much, overabused.

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haritz wrote on December 3, 2008 #19

When I am in a slump, I jog. I am not sprinter (lelah sket, huhuh) but I can run for long. Up to an hour. While jogging, I go through all the problems in my head. By the end of the evening, the problems magically solved itself (or at least, for the day ^^).

Playing computer games, reading manga, or watching anime won’t help much, as it will make you feel lonely, feel really empty inside.

Phone call, on the other hang, can do wonders. Call your loved ones. Use Happy prepaid ^^

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MK replied #1

Banyak sangat reply komen orang. Nak merasa camna reply komen sendiri.

Hm. Not fun.

Bah. Sorry Eddie, for the spam. Jiwa kacau. Hahah.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

One hour? Lame tu. Bagus.

Agree. a phone call would do great. But still, I prefer talking to strangers.

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MK wrote on December 3, 2008 #20

Owh,terus teringat filem sepi.Nak hilangkan sedih hati kehilangan isteri,si laki berjogging setiap hari.Jumpa bini orang yang chun,hari2 semangat nak jog.

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xmindfreakx wrote on December 3, 2008 #21

hmm… well this is my opinion though…
sometimes.. when you can reach to even one person who can just really listen to you… it will at least makes you feel that they are people who cares about you.
And you when know that these people are near to you, somehow, it will make you stronger.

hehe…

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Somehow master, my life principle is try to live on your own. There’s no “if I’ll fail”. I can do it. I know I can. Oh well, maybe I’m just that egoist.

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master room OV wrote on December 3, 2008 #22

Hey NH! First of all, nice song ;) I like it when people plug songs occasionally in their entries because sometimes I’ll just go crazy over it and have it stuck in my head (yay, free cranial jukebox!) :grin:

I would go for a jog or a swim to vent off that extra anger but since I’m a rather introverted person, it scares me when I talk to strangers :P and I guess whining to a stranger will scare them away too… it depends on their personality as well.

I wouldn’t watch dramas for that long because my neck will hurt! I’ve got this lower back problem and I couldn’t sit for too long. Lying on the bed to watch makes things worse because I’ll wake up having a nasty neck ache :eek:

Usually when I’m sad I’ll prefer to be alone. I’ll refrain to talk to my close friends because I don’t think I deserve their attention and I don’t want to let them feel my inner pain. I understand because even as a close friend, some people find whining untolerable :neutral:

I’m sure I’m not optimistic enough to laugh it off! Haha! I’ll probably mull over it for a few days or so and I’ll get better after a while.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Ah, my favorite commentator.

Teddy, while I think it’s ok to sulk on emotions (alone), I do think it’s good if you could release some of that by telling others.

The thing about stranger is, they dont know you. So they can’t judge you. E.g. you made someone pregnant. would you tell your friends or stranger? If you tell your friends, it’ll be his/her trump card, you know in case you dont want to do their lab work. If you tell a stranger, chances are, they’ll forget or file this under temp memory.

*stranger in this context is like you and me. I don’t know your circle of friends or family, likewise.

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teddY replied #1

LOL! Speaking of making someone pregnant, if that really happened one day I wouldn’t even tell my closest friend. They’ll most probably inform my parents on the basis of ‘oh, it’s all for your own good’ and my mom will slaughter me and I’ll be her bacon for breakfast tomorrow :shock:

You reminded me of those anonymous chatrooms my friends used to go to. They just randomly speak to strangers… and can spend a whole night doing that. I didn’t understand why would they like to do that until your post came up and rang a bell in my head *ding dong!*

What is keeping you awake at 4am in the morning? :razz:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

It’s a 24 hour business ;)

Play hard, Work harder, Pleasure later. Until pleasure comes, I will work my wits out.

ps: If your parents slaughter you, will it be halal? LoL


teddY replied #1

Ooof! Sounds pretty harsh on your health. Don’t be a workaholic okay :P be sure to know how to enjoy life, heh.

I don’t think so. I’m a lazy pig :grin:


NoktahHitam replied #1

Nice come back line :twisted:


teddY wrote on December 4, 2008 #23

We pray 5 times a day, so, berdoa lah…and you could tell evrything to Him.read hadis yg menceritakan bgaimana nabi berdoa….nabi cerita semua masalah…sort of therapy, orang yg beragama lg cepat tenang…beragama meaning believe in god.

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sub wrote on December 4, 2008 #24

sometimes you need a shoulder to cry. :cry:
a stranger? it might help. :grin:
(but not all the time)

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pcuserz wrote on December 5, 2008 #25

does that works? i felt that i am falling apart nowadays.. nothing is what it seems anymore.. had try to push it under the carpet but it is still there.. too much into work until i’m so tired but still feeling sad…

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NoktahHitam replied #1

I does work for me. Rather than you going to MiRC, might as well just talk to me. The very least I could do, is listen.

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ellyda zsazsa wrote on December 8, 2008 #26

i once read in a book that says, boys usually will cave-in whenever they hv problems, they dont share it with people dear to their hearts. It doesnt mean they didnt trust or love u, its just the hormones in them. Same goes to me tho i dont hv the Y-gene, maybe i hv some hormonal imbalance s’where kut :!: .

But i guess, the ego in us force us to have some quiet time alone. Its not that we dont share, but certain things are too private to tell others even our bff. :neutral:

Sila jgn fikir bahawa semua kaum Hawa ni share problems dgn shbt2 kwn2 rapat. There’s always an exception. :smile:

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Mcd&T wrote on December 26, 2008 #27

Leave a comment, I won't bite ;)

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