You just highlighted one of the basic courtesy that many Asians lack. Holding a door doesn’t kill you nor does it shorten your life span. It’s just puzzling why people would never want to hold the door for somebody and would rather stand there and stare blankly at the door slamming back into the person’s face. Why be so mean when we can actually make someone’s day?

Spending 6 years in Singapore, I’ve been holding doors open for strangers at shopping malls, toilet entrances, cinemas, 7-11 outlets and etc. Although not everyone says thank you, at least people did give me a nice smile it doesn’t matter to me whether they are appreciative of my act or whatsoever, but I just want to spread the notion that holding a door is what we should do for strangers whenever it is convenient for us,

It’s awkward to see people struggling to squeeze through doors because none of them are willing to hold the door open - instead, both of them prefer to make their way through the small frame.

I was on a university campus tour the other day, and when I was heading for the gents, a very nice Caucasian lecturer held the door open for me even when I was about 10 seconds away from it - it just dawned on me that in other cultures, it means a lot of do something nice and it’s their pleasure to do so. Of course I hurried to get through the door when the lecturer joked that I didn’t even need to walk half as fast because he said, ‘It’ll be bad for me to slam the door close when you’re already walking towards it, no matter how slow you are!’
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ja-at nye dia tak senyum langsung. huhuhu. saya akan senyum dengan manis jika ada orang tolong pegangkan/bukak kan pintu untuk saya. kalau dia comel dan tinggi dan bercermin mata dan memakai baju melayu dan berjeans lusuh lagi la lebar senyuman saya.

even kalau a girl yang tolong pegangkan/ bukakkan pintu pun saya akan tetap senyum dengan lebar. tak kesah la sape-sape. at least dia tolong kita.

‘terima kaseh’.
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1st impression biler tgk gambar tu.. OUCHHH!!! sakit la!!! hahahah

saya pun akan buat perkara yg sama, hold kan pintu utk org lain dan akan tersenyum. tapi sakit hati juga kalau org tu tak senyum balik ke, cakap tq ke.. grrr… tu la budaya org mesia ni..

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aku pon akan selalu pegangkan pintu kalo ada org belakang aku..

tak kira la sape..

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err..kalo mumia mmg xde tgn..
pegang pintu dan berdoa…

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Salam Bro,
Aku pun ader pengalaman camtu, masa aku piun kat lawyer firm dulu selalu bawak fail besar2, masuk pejabat tanah dahlah susah pintu sempit, ada satu hamba Allah nampak aku sarat dia masuk boleh bang that door. Apa lagi berterabur la fail. Apa salah nyer hold.. pastu buat bodoh jer .. rasa mcm nak karate jer tengkok dia..
(org melayu kaya budi bahasa tp la ni ader lagi ker..)

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urmm!
and i can say that foreigners are more gentleman to hold doors for people yg kuar masuk.
more or less, they easily thanked us in any ways. ie. inside the bus, or taxi. org kita ni menyombonk je lebeyyy~

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when i hold the door, the person smile and thanked me. not all of them buat bodohh.

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bile tgk gambo 2,ingat de cite creppy

kadang² pegangkan pintu gak 4 org and sometimes de yg senyum,de yg say thanks,de yg silent je (mulut kene jahit kot )tapi xkisah pun.janji dah tolong org.

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uishh… sungguh teruk orang camtu… dia bisu kot… or maybe ada sumthing wrong ngan urat muka dia yg buat dia x bleh senyum… haihhhh~ manusia & perangainya…

u dah tunjuk attitude yang baik utk jadi good citizen, so, just keep it up!!
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good post. seriously, i found malaysians’ men are not chivalrous, what more gentleman (that’s why i’m picky in finding a malay boyfriend. haha!). I used to hold doors and people say thank you and smile back at me and it makes my day. as the saying goes “you feel good when you do good”. But when I come back to Malaysia (the typical Malaysian attitude doesn’t change much after 2 years I’ve been away), I feel like maki hamun je when guys are not being gentleman (mulalah nak membebel nie). Anyways, we can make a difference right? it takes time to change apparently.
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Gamba kaki itu sgt creepy.. huhu..

Walaupun kadang2 rasa malu bila senyum pada org, tapi mereka tak balas balik.. Saffa akan terus senyum!

Owh ya, bila lintas jalan dan ada kereta bagi laluan.. jgn lupa bow ur head n smile.
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Hoho , dat’s damn true , Malaysian esp the malays are forgetting it .

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” When I say “hold the door”, it doesn’t only translate to physical stuff. Also applies various parts of your life, e.g. The door to your heart, the door to greater success, the door of wisdom etc. So think about it.”

the door to YOUR HEART. you are already 25.

haha. ok ok, i know. don’t kill me, eddie.

I would always smile to the people who hold the door for me, and I would do the same, for ppl behind me, no matter how strong or healthy they look. once, I was very kelam kabut after class, and I forgot that a friend of mine was following me from behind amd I forgot to hold the door for her. so, she got slammed by the door. hahaha. man, how rude I was. and of course, I apologised, but then we laughed about it. luckily, it’s my friend, not some stranger. I would feel really bad.

I think, now, there are more and more polite people who would do this. I THINK. based on my personal daily experiences la. heheh.

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teringat aku iklan kat radio era “bukannya nak angkat tangan pun bila kita bagi jalan, bukannya kena bayar pun bila angkat tangan!” hahaha aku bengang biler driver lain takde courtesy langsung nak angkat tangan ke aper biler kita bagi jalan kan. hehe
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Erm, aku suke tolong bukakan pintu pada sesiapa sahaja..kekekek..

Erm tp aku menyampah pada mereka yg tak fhm istilah tolak dan tarik..org suruh tolak ko pi tarik..aku nyaris2 tersungkur ke lantai gara2 seorang minah yg bodoh ni menarik pintu yg sepatutnya di tolak..

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Basic courtesy isn’t it? Holding the door open and thanking someone for it both.

Once at 7-11 a male friend of mine was asked “Would you hold the door for me” by a lady with too much to hold. He did and she thanked him. Later that week, my friend and I was assigned to get some snacks at the same 7-11 for a get together had too much to hold between us. So he asked a girl the same question that lady asked him. She just stared and said “tak gentleman langsung”

Now, is it wrong to hold the door for a guy? Most girls think so. Double standard sangat sangat.

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eh? lmbtnye i discover this post!

anyway, holding the door for the next person would make him/her happy. and it makes u happy making them happy. so yeah, why not ppl?
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Eh? My comment masuk tak?
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Penat I tulis panjang2 tadi tak masuk rupanya
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