“I walk slowly, but I never walk backward.”- Abraham Lincoln

First Love Marriage, Anyone?

I just got back from Mr.B tahlil. It was short one. I really enjoyed the Malay style beef curry. Fabulous ok!

I met a few of my friends from MCKK, Mr M., Mr H. and Mr A, whom arrived later. These people are married and soon-to-be-husband. I find myself asking them, how they met, wedding preparation also other trivial matters of their work.

It’s rather fortunate for them to marry their first love, just like my elder and younger brother. However, I did not failed to ask my wicked mind,”how did they click?” or “what if later in life they find someone better?” or “NH is just being choosy?

Of course, these people never refrained themselves from asking me when is my turn. My typical answer would be,”somewhere in October”. What year? I’ll figure that out later.

Seriously I’m amused, how could they hang on to their first love? It must be dreadful.

ps : I have a ‘date’ with my client on Friday. Malas la plak nak entertain orang :roll:

pss : Today, I slept 12 hours. Demam la babe :arrow:

psss : Mr M. is marrying his form 3 penpal, whom is a doctor. Jealous, jealous, envy :kiss:

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MK wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 2:26 am

For me, there is no question such as “what if later in life they find someone better”

ajal + jodoh di tangan Tuhan. we don’t have to find it, it already written.

MK’s last blog post..Cara-cara Menggunakan Norton Ghost Untuk Backup Windows

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Iwana replied on
May 14, 2008 at 9:20 am

we still have to find jodoh. katelah jodoh itu diberi nilai 10. 1 itu memang Allah dah tetapkan. 9 lagi atas usaha kite. sebab itula ade guideline dalam pemilihan jodoh. am i rite?

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MK replied on
May 14, 2008 at 9:31 am

kalau memang nak kahwin.. eloklah terus cari jodoh yg sesuai. ikut guideline yang diberi.

tapi kalau cinta sebelum kahwin.. memang x elok kan (yea like i’m one to talk). lagipun kalau bercinta bagai nak rak waktu berkapel, bimbang pudar manisnya bila kahwin nanti..

MK’s last blog post..Cara-cara Menggunakan Norton Ghost Untuk Backup Windows

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 1:50 pm

Iwana is right. So is MK.

jodoh already written? then buat ape kite nak berusahe nak mencari? somehow I fail to believe that there is a specific someone for that someone. what about those who doesnt marry till death? Jodoh tak sampai? Jodoh tak tertulis? Takkan Tuhan kejam camtu kot.

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Iwana replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:29 pm

i dont know how true this fact is –> org yang tak jumpe jodoh dia tu sebab jodoh dia di ambil oleh anak luar nikah. anak luar nikah ni tak tertulis jodoh diorang. :roll:

NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:58 pm

wow. Thats a quite a remark. how true is that, nanti Ill ask some ustaz around

MK replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:47 pm

eddie: sebab tu la, kita x perlu berusaha cari gf. cari isteri, lain.

dan orang yang sabar akan diberi balasan yang lumayan. i’ve heard a story about a guy who live single until the age of 40. agak pemalu orangnya, susah nak tegur gadis. at 40, he got married to a 18-year old, beatiful thailand girl. (18 y/o wife at the age of 40… bukankah itu idaman setiap lelaki ^^)

kalau jodoh xde kat dunia, kat akhirat ada kan. orang yang beramal soleh dijanjikan bidadari awal2 lagi. in fact, at the time of speaking, bidadari tu tgh tengok suami dia..

*wave at the angels*

MK’s last blog post..Cara-cara Menggunakan Norton Ghost Untuk Backup Windows

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 3:07 pm

Bro MK,

Its really not about gf or having a wife. For me, marriage is about continuity of your genes, your kids.

It’s not like I’m desperate to get married. I’m not even ready yet myself. But I like the fact that you reminded me, that angels are waiting for me in the sky, provided I am a good muslim. Amin!

MK replied on
May 14, 2008 at 3:14 pm

ya, wave at them

*waves* :p

MK’s last blog post..Cara-cara Menggunakan Norton Ghost Untuk Backup Windows

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AyUmi wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 6:56 am

my first love masa darjah 3 dulu. ermm.. eddie, jodoh pertemuan di tangan Tuhan. kita hanya mampu merancang. :roll:

(ape punya komen i bagi ni :roll: ) hahaha..

AyUmi’s last blog post..:: tag (again) ::

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AyUmi replied on
May 14, 2008 at 7:59 am

eddie, you quit blogging i jentik hidung you. :lol:
AyUmi’s last blog post..:: tag (again) ::

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 1:47 pm

darjah 3 tak kire love. you know nothing of love :eek:

AyUmi replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:57 pm

yeah. i know nothing about love. at that time laa. sekarang pun sama je :roll:
AyUmi’s last blog post..:: tag (again) ::

t.a.t.a replied on
May 14, 2008 at 4:59 pm

AyUmi, cam jauh hati je munyi nyer.. jgn la camtu sayang!
senyum sket.. cak! haaaa kan ke manis tu…

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cik simpankira wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 7:25 am

First love, termasuk ke cinta main2?
Kalo cinta main2 gue, masa tadika gue dh ada first love..

Tapi setakat ni, gue lom jumpa first love sebenar gue…

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:01 pm

abes tu, ramai la pompuan aku kene kawen kalau nak ikut main masak2 aku. ramai jugak bini aku.

love, like & obsession, are 3 different things. One must know how to identify them really well. :shock: :???:

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cik simpankira replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:03 pm

tapi, ko kata 1st..
kalo kawan main masak2 ko… kalo ramai, xde la first dah…

ok…berbalik pada citer ko.. lom ada lagik..sekian..

NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:10 pm

kau mmg kelakar biawak la cik simpangkira.

persoalannye, how can anyone be so lucky enough to marry their first love?

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lydiarayyan wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 7:31 am

my first love….married s’one else…hahaha..how bout that?? :eek:

firsy love not always a good one….. :?:
lydiarayyan’s last blog post..feelin’ guilty

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:02 pm

must be a burden when you think about it :???: :???:

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laila wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 7:49 am

eddie! dont quit blogging pretty please :halo:

my first heartbreak was in form 4. gile sedih. so i guess thts first love kot.

laila’s last blog post..and this one goes to

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:03 pm

quiting is just a thought. nothing more, yet.

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Iwana wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 9:14 am

How I wish there is magic formula that help me pick my magical partner. But there just isn’t any. When there’s imperfection in the other, it is best for the other to help patch it up. After all a couple should complete each other aren’t they?

“Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.” - Emily Kimbrough

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 1:58 pm

“verily, where is hardship, there is relief” - Al Inshira.

If you found that magic formula, could you lend it to me? I’ll commercialize it and you could become my business partner :shock:

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Iwana replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:48 pm

Oh i’ll lend it to you, tapi nak jadi business partner tak boleh la. I’ll hog the profits to myself har har har. Joking2, macam boleh jumpe je formula tu.

On serious note, i know why NH is taking a lot of your time. Is it because you check on our delicious comments every few seconds. Dont get too hard on yourself. After all isn’t blogging is merely for pleasure. Hip2 hoorey. Cheer up!

MK replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:49 pm

saya pernah dengar.. “wanita-wanita yang baik, adalah untuk laki2 yang baik”

you’ll know your magical partner, when the time comes

MK’s last blog post..Cara-cara Menggunakan Norton Ghost Untuk Backup Windows

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Iwana replied on
May 14, 2008 at 6:06 pm

Amin! selain baik, i hope he’ll be someone with great sense of humour.

Pls dont use the term ‘magical partner’ again, cause im imagining that my man is going to appear very glittery tehehe.

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thebanker wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 9:29 am

what if they find someone better? dude, there is no one better dah for them. that’s y they got married in the 1st place. unless the love died out, that person would stay being the best person for them. and i envy them for that.

thebanker’s last blog post..Speed Racer

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 1:53 pm

nope. There will always be someone better. Its up to them to kekang the nafsu. I’d take like a bus mini situation, sauk je sume at one given time.

I believe its more to companionship rather than love.

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ejanas replied on
May 14, 2008 at 9:38 pm

u’re being sceptical in love..do u?

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t.a.t.a wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 10:54 am

1st love? sweet!

BTW mr eddie, sila buat tag ini ya.. :evil:
http://nosherta.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/tag-tempat-kerja-saya/

t.a.t.a’s last blog post..Tag: Tempat kerja saya.

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 1:54 pm

Ayumi dah tag mende same :arrow:

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AyUmi replied on
May 14, 2008 at 2:55 pm

i did not. litium did. :cry:
AyUmi’s last blog post..:: tag (again) ::

NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 3:22 pm

oh.. a’ah! sorry silap orang :cool:

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ejanas wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 11:43 am

soon u’ll find ur true love and u’ll never want anyone else dah… :oops:
and please please please don’t stop blogging NH, i really love your blog..kan laila? hehe

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 1:56 pm

its really a matter of principle, not because of boredom. I think because I have loads of work. And somehow NH takes a lot of my time. :arrow:

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ejanas replied on
May 14, 2008 at 9:49 pm

but, u can’t just quit. :sad: im sure ur readers will be missing NH.
or maybe u can update NH once in a while? :smile:

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melbie wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 2:38 pm

First love marriage? Luckily he married someone else :grin: looking back, he’s not someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with …

Marriage in general? Malas mau pikir … hohoho… tunggu ja la bila sampai masa … kalau nda sampai² pun.. aii .. that’s not something that I’ll consider life’s biggest achievement :wink:
melbie’s last blog post..Why I Don’t Like Cats…

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 10:51 pm

It depends though.

Most people think, only girls have the “First Love Cannot Forget” mentality, boys have it too ok.

Life biggest achievement is having every behind your back, NH style~ :arrow:

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medea wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 5:30 pm

hehehe…first love pun ada pasang surutnya…

yang penting samada sanggup atau tak untuk hadapi semua…

gaduh2…marah2…biasa la….

orang kata, sedangkan lidah sendiri lagi digigit, inikan pula lidah orang lain…. erk…

aku tunggu bulan sepuluh tu

medea’s last blog post..serius, aku tak tau nak bubuh tajuk ape…

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 5:51 pm

tercapai gak motif aku utk ko comment kt sini :!:

kire berjaye la aku psycho ko? WeW~ :arrow:

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bongkersz wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 5:52 pm

marriage is a just a paper for some people. to many it is just part of the rituals in your life that you need to complete.

marrying first love? so what? is it something to envy? what if a person married his/her 3rd, 4th, 7th, 20th love? it doesn’t really matter right? :)

ps: jodoh di tangan tuhan? :P kesian lah yang takder jodoh :cry: oh i know next, tuhan tahu apa yang terbaik untuk kita. ada hikmah di sebaliknya… :lol:

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 10:49 pm

I envy la bong. I wouldn’t have to go through hardship of getting over. It sucks, you know it too :oops:

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M-I-N wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 7:01 pm

“what if later in life they find someone better?”
-if we love some1,we love them just the way they are.kalo de yg xperfect pun,like iwana said;a couple should complete each other.2 pendpt aku la

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 10:48 pm

complete each other! what a keyword.

reminds of the story, Jerry McGuier. “You complete me!”
“You had me at helo~”

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Aisyah wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 7:02 pm

selalunya, based on my observation. (haha), I saw that people who marry their first love have a happy marriage. but that doesn’t mean that people who marry their 2nd, 3rd love are not. but I’ve seen with my eyes, a couple divorced and marry their first loves.

*shrugs* I’m still young. huhu.

Aisyah’s last blog post..the. gig. was. fun. uyeeh.

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Aisyah replied on
May 14, 2008 at 7:02 pm

and oh, btw, I think that you like to think too much about these stuffs.

ingat, kahwin kerana Allah. :razz:

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 7:29 pm

I think too much? Well, I blame the pressure on me!

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saffa replied on
May 14, 2008 at 9:07 pm

love. what is love. love. :roll:

“love, like & obsession, are 3 different things. One must know how to identify them really well.” Sadly, i’ve failed before and i’m not gping to repeat the same mistake.

p/s: yerp.. I’m still young too. Indescribable.

saffa’s last blog post..Sick and Restless

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DSvT wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 9:09 pm

Me…
1st love marriage is not rare at all….

DSvT’s last blog post..Love is …

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ainul wrote on
May 14, 2008 at 10:25 pm

pls istikharah dulu b4 u make the decision to stop blogging…..

p.s: sweetla mr.M, lama tu since f3……setia sungguh ;D

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 14, 2008 at 10:46 pm

baw, kawen aku je la. ko doctorkan? Hahaha

If I’m done, and i have nothing else to say. I’d call it quits. I’ll see you in another dimension ;)

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 15, 2008 at 3:27 am

jap. nape kene istikharah? bukan aku nak cari bini pon :twisted:

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ainul replied on
May 15, 2008 at 8:33 pm

aritu aku offer xnak~ m still single & available u know~ muahaha :P
xbestla if u stop blogging, the blogworld will never b the same again, ga fun gitu lohhh~ hahaha
sbb tu aku soh istikharah b4 kau buat decision stop blogging tu, heeee ;D

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cacah wrote on
May 15, 2008 at 1:34 pm

seriously, aku rasa orang yang dapat kawin dengan first love dia, memang bertuah. *huhu* i am such a hopeless romantic* there would never any issue of boringness, i think. love is about getting to know each other, completing each other.
so, if they really do love each other, there will never stop knowing each other.
faham tak? harap faham lah.
:XO: NH sangat comel bila berbicara pasal lovey dovey nih.
err…btw, kalau you were thinking of not blogging anymore, huu I nak jentik telinga dia! :razz:
cacah’s last blog post..Saya kena tag! Saya kena tag!

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zack wrote on
May 15, 2008 at 4:25 pm

antara matlamat hidup adalah untuk berkahwin dan beranak pinak. survival of the species. maknanya semua manusia yang ada kat muka bumi ni adalah hasil dari perhubungan lelaki dan wanita yg majoritinya melalui institusis perkahwinan.

in other words, only those who choose or procreate will have their genes pass on to the next generation. those who are too picky or for whatever reason, not getting married, is at the dead end. Mr. NH you need to seriously think about getting married before its too late. :lol:

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NoktahHitam replied on
May 15, 2008 at 5:28 pm

before its too late? What do you mean?

It’s not like I don’t want to. When the time comes, I’ll let the world know ok?

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