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First Love Marriage, Anyone?

I just got back from Mr.B tahlil. It was short one. I really enjoyed the Malay style beef curry. Fabulous ok!

I met a few of my friends from MCKK, Mr M., Mr H. and Mr A, whom arrived later. These people are married and soon-to-be-husband. I find myself asking them, how they met, wedding preparation also other trivial matters of their work.

It’s rather fortunate for them to marry their first love, just like my elder and younger brother. However, I did not failed to ask my wicked mind,”how did they click?” or “what if later in life they find someone better?” or “NH is just being choosy?”

Of course, these people never refrained themselves from asking me when is my turn. My typical answer would be,”somewhere in October”. What year? I’ll figure that out later.

Seriously I’m amused, how could they hang on to their first love? It must be dreadful.

ps : I have a ‘date’ with my client on Friday. Malas la plak nak entertain orang :roll:

pss : Today, I slept 12 hours. Demam la babe :arrow:

psss : Mr M. is marrying his form 3 penpal, whom is a doctor. Jealous, jealous, envy :kiss:

Written on 14 May '08 under Personal & Geeky
 

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For me, there is no question such as “what if later in life they find someone better”

ajal + jodoh di tangan Tuhan. we don’t have to find it, it already written.

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Iwana replied #1

we still have to find jodoh. katelah jodoh itu diberi nilai 10. 1 itu memang Allah dah tetapkan. 9 lagi atas usaha kite. sebab itula ade guideline dalam pemilihan jodoh. am i rite?

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MK replied #1

kalau memang nak kahwin.. eloklah terus cari jodoh yg sesuai. ikut guideline yang diberi.

tapi kalau cinta sebelum kahwin.. memang x elok kan (yea like i’m one to talk). lagipun kalau bercinta bagai nak rak waktu berkapel, bimbang pudar manisnya bila kahwin nanti..

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Iwana is right. So is MK.

jodoh already written? then buat ape kite nak berusahe nak mencari? somehow I fail to believe that there is a specific someone for that someone. what about those who doesnt marry till death? Jodoh tak sampai? Jodoh tak tertulis? Takkan Tuhan kejam camtu kot.

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Iwana replied #1

i dont know how true this fact is –> org yang tak jumpe jodoh dia tu sebab jodoh dia di ambil oleh anak luar nikah. anak luar nikah ni tak tertulis jodoh diorang. :roll:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

wow. Thats a quite a remark. how true is that, nanti Ill ask some ustaz around

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MK replied #1

eddie: sebab tu la, kita x perlu berusaha cari gf. cari isteri, lain.

dan orang yang sabar akan diberi balasan yang lumayan. i’ve heard a story about a guy who live single until the age of 40. agak pemalu orangnya, susah nak tegur gadis. at 40, he got married to a 18-year old, beatiful thailand girl. (18 y/o wife at the age of 40… bukankah itu idaman setiap lelaki ^^)

kalau jodoh xde kat dunia, kat akhirat ada kan. orang yang beramal soleh dijanjikan bidadari awal2 lagi. in fact, at the time of speaking, bidadari tu tgh tengok suami dia..

*wave at the angels*

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Bro MK,

Its really not about gf or having a wife. For me, marriage is about continuity of your genes, your kids.

It’s not like I’m desperate to get married. I’m not even ready yet myself. But I like the fact that you reminded me, that angels are waiting for me in the sky, provided I am a good muslim. Amin!

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MK replied #1

ya, wave at them

*waves* :p

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MK wrote on May 14, 2008 #1

my first love masa darjah 3 dulu. ermm.. eddie, jodoh pertemuan di tangan Tuhan. kita hanya mampu merancang. :roll:

(ape punya komen i bagi ni :roll: ) hahaha..

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AyUmi replied #1

eddie, you quit blogging i jentik hidung you. :lol:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

darjah 3 tak kire love. you know nothing of love :eek:

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AyUmi replied #1

yeah. i know nothing about love. at that time laa. sekarang pun sama je :roll:

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t.a.t.a replied #1

AyUmi, cam jauh hati je munyi nyer.. jgn la camtu sayang!
senyum sket.. cak! haaaa kan ke manis tu…

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AyUmi wrote on May 14, 2008 #2

First love, termasuk ke cinta main2?
Kalo cinta main2 gue, masa tadika gue dh ada first love..

Tapi setakat ni, gue lom jumpa first love sebenar gue…

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NoktahHitam replied #1

abes tu, ramai la pompuan aku kene kawen kalau nak ikut main masak2 aku. ramai jugak bini aku.

love, like & obsession, are 3 different things. One must know how to identify them really well. :shock: :???:

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cik simpankira replied #1

tapi, ko kata 1st..
kalo kawan main masak2 ko… kalo ramai, xde la first dah…

ok…berbalik pada citer ko.. lom ada lagik..sekian..

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NoktahHitam replied #1

kau mmg kelakar biawak la cik simpangkira.

persoalannye, how can anyone be so lucky enough to marry their first love?

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cik simpankira wrote on May 14, 2008 #3

my first love….married s’one else…hahaha..how bout that?? :eek:

firsy love not always a good one….. :?:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

must be a burden when you think about it :???: :???:

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lydiarayyan wrote on May 14, 2008 #4

eddie! dont quit blogging pretty please :halo:

my first heartbreak was in form 4. gile sedih. so i guess thts first love kot.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

quiting is just a thought. nothing more, yet.

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laila wrote on May 14, 2008 #5

How I wish there is magic formula that help me pick my magical partner. But there just isn’t any. When there’s imperfection in the other, it is best for the other to help patch it up. After all a couple should complete each other aren’t they?

“Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.” – Emily Kimbrough

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NoktahHitam replied #1

“verily, where is hardship, there is relief” – Al Inshira.

If you found that magic formula, could you lend it to me? I’ll commercialize it and you could become my business partner :shock:

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Iwana replied #1

Oh i’ll lend it to you, tapi nak jadi business partner tak boleh la. I’ll hog the profits to myself har har har. Joking2, macam boleh jumpe je formula tu.

On serious note, i know why NH is taking a lot of your time. Is it because you check on our delicious comments every few seconds. Dont get too hard on yourself. After all isn’t blogging is merely for pleasure. Hip2 hoorey. Cheer up!

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MK replied #1

saya pernah dengar.. “wanita-wanita yang baik, adalah untuk laki2 yang baik”

you’ll know your magical partner, when the time comes

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Iwana replied #1

Amin! selain baik, i hope he’ll be someone with great sense of humour.

Pls dont use the term ‘magical partner’ again, cause im imagining that my man is going to appear very glittery tehehe.

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Iwana wrote on May 14, 2008 #6

what if they find someone better? dude, there is no one better dah for them. that’s y they got married in the 1st place. unless the love died out, that person would stay being the best person for them. and i envy them for that.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

nope. There will always be someone better. Its up to them to kekang the nafsu. I’d take like a bus mini situation, sauk je sume at one given time.

I believe its more to companionship rather than love.

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ejanas replied #1

u’re being sceptical in love..do u?

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thebanker wrote on May 14, 2008 #7

1st love? sweet!

BTW mr eddie, sila buat tag ini ya.. :evil:
http://nosherta.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/tag-tempat-kerja-saya/

t.a.t.a’s last blog post..Tag: Tempat kerja saya.

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NoktahHitam replied #1

Ayumi dah tag mende same :arrow:

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AyUmi replied #1

i did not. litium did. :cry:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

oh.. a’ah! sorry silap orang :cool:

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t.a.t.a wrote on May 14, 2008 #8

soon u’ll find ur true love and u’ll never want anyone else dah… :oops:
and please please please don’t stop blogging NH, i really love your blog..kan laila? hehe

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NoktahHitam replied #1

its really a matter of principle, not because of boredom. I think because I have loads of work. And somehow NH takes a lot of my time. :arrow:

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ejanas replied #1

but, u can’t just quit. :sad: im sure ur readers will be missing NH.
or maybe u can update NH once in a while? :smile:

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ejanas wrote on May 14, 2008 #9

First love marriage? Luckily he married someone else :grin: looking back, he’s not someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with …

Marriage in general? Malas mau pikir … hohoho… tunggu ja la bila sampai masa … kalau nda sampai² pun.. aii .. that’s not something that I’ll consider life’s biggest achievement :wink:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

It depends though.

Most people think, only girls have the “First Love Cannot Forget” mentality, boys have it too ok.

Life biggest achievement is having every behind your back, NH style~ :arrow:

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melbie wrote on May 14, 2008 #10

hehehe…first love pun ada pasang surutnya…

yang penting samada sanggup atau tak untuk hadapi semua…

gaduh2…marah2…biasa la….

orang kata, sedangkan lidah sendiri lagi digigit, inikan pula lidah orang lain…. erk…

aku tunggu bulan sepuluh tu

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NoktahHitam replied #1

tercapai gak motif aku utk ko comment kt sini :!:

kire berjaye la aku psycho ko? WeW~ :arrow:

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medea wrote on May 14, 2008 #11

marriage is a just a paper for some people. to many it is just part of the rituals in your life that you need to complete.

marrying first love? so what? is it something to envy? what if a person married his/her 3rd, 4th, 7th, 20th love? it doesn’t really matter right? :)

ps: jodoh di tangan tuhan? :P kesian lah yang takder jodoh :cry: oh i know next, tuhan tahu apa yang terbaik untuk kita. ada hikmah di sebaliknya… :lol:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

I envy la bong. I wouldn’t have to go through hardship of getting over. It sucks, you know it too :oops:

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bongkersz wrote on May 14, 2008 #12

“what if later in life they find someone better?”
-if we love some1,we love them just the way they are.kalo de yg xperfect pun,like iwana said;a couple should complete each other.2 pendpt aku la

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NoktahHitam replied #1

complete each other! what a keyword.

reminds of the story, Jerry McGuier. “You complete me!”
“You had me at helo~”

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M-I-N wrote on May 14, 2008 #13

selalunya, based on my observation. (haha), I saw that people who marry their first love have a happy marriage. but that doesn’t mean that people who marry their 2nd, 3rd love are not. but I’ve seen with my eyes, a couple divorced and marry their first loves.

*shrugs* I’m still young. huhu.

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Aisyah replied #1

and oh, btw, I think that you like to think too much about these stuffs.

ingat, kahwin kerana Allah. :razz:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

I think too much? Well, I blame the pressure on me!

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saffa replied #1

love. what is love. love. :roll:

“love, like & obsession, are 3 different things. One must know how to identify them really well.” Sadly, i’ve failed before and i’m not gping to repeat the same mistake.

p/s: yerp.. I’m still young too. Indescribable.

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Aisyah wrote on May 14, 2008 #14

Me…
1st love marriage is not rare at all….

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DSvT wrote on May 14, 2008 #15

pls istikharah dulu b4 u make the decision to stop blogging…..

p.s: sweetla mr.M, lama tu since f3……setia sungguh ;D

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NoktahHitam replied #1

baw, kawen aku je la. ko doctorkan? Hahaha

If I’m done, and i have nothing else to say. I’d call it quits. I’ll see you in another dimension ;)

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NoktahHitam replied #1

jap. nape kene istikharah? bukan aku nak cari bini pon :twisted:

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ainul replied #1

aritu aku offer xnak~ m still single & available u know~ muahaha :P

xbestla if u stop blogging, the blogworld will never b the same again, ga fun gitu lohhh~ hahaha
sbb tu aku soh istikharah b4 kau buat decision stop blogging tu, heeee ;D

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ainul wrote on May 14, 2008 #16

seriously, aku rasa orang yang dapat kawin dengan first love dia, memang bertuah. *huhu* i am such a hopeless romantic* there would never any issue of boringness, i think. love is about getting to know each other, completing each other.
so, if they really do love each other, there will never stop knowing each other.
faham tak? harap faham lah.
:XO: NH sangat comel bila berbicara pasal lovey dovey nih.
err…btw, kalau you were thinking of not blogging anymore, huu I nak jentik telinga dia! :razz:

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cacah wrote on May 15, 2008 #17

antara matlamat hidup adalah untuk berkahwin dan beranak pinak. survival of the species. maknanya semua manusia yang ada kat muka bumi ni adalah hasil dari perhubungan lelaki dan wanita yg majoritinya melalui institusis perkahwinan.

in other words, only those who choose or procreate will have their genes pass on to the next generation. those who are too picky or for whatever reason, not getting married, is at the dead end. Mr. NH you need to seriously think about getting married before its too late. :lol:

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NoktahHitam replied #1

before its too late? What do you mean?

It’s not like I don’t want to. When the time comes, I’ll let the world know ok?

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zack wrote on May 15, 2008 #18

Leave a comment, I won't bite ;)

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