Happy One Year Old Sara, Here’s Your Birthday Gift
It was exactly last year at this time, I was playing badminton with my officemate. Got home and argued a little with your mother. She was moody, I was tired, and the rest was history (you can read the story here). We slept for 3 hours and was awoken by mom, her water has broken.
Anyway, you turned one year today. Most parents would throw fancy party, birthday cake, a get together. Personally I’m not a big on grand gestures. But of course for every birthday, theres’ a gift. I’m giving you something priceless, no money can’t buy. I am building you at time machine.
Well, to be accurate, it’s an email capsule.
What I’ll do is send you mails, conversing with the 18 year old version of you. Tell you my griefs, my hardship, how much I borrowed your money, how you drooled on me, or scratch my face or what ever. The point is, I want you to be prepared, that one day, she’ll be an adult and parent too. This life is meaningless if love is not spread.
To do this right, I am using IFTTT. Every time we post on instagram using the hashtag #saraedwin, it will be downloaded and automatically send to your email. Cool huh? But I’ll also mail you from time to time. Just a quick short ones. (So does this post!)
Till then, good night and happy birthday my little angle. Abah loves you.
Written on 30 October '14 under Aisyah and Me
5 Amazing Things You Can Learn from a Toddler
At exactly 11 months old, Sara can finally walk!
She started standing up by latching on to pillars, desks, chairs, even my ass for months ( I can’t exactly recall when she started) and she’s darn good at it.
Here are the things that I learned from her.
1. Change is Good – from crawling to walking. Get out of that comfort zone and get uncomfortable, learn from it.
2. Perseverance – building up muscle to balance and walk requires a lot of effort. She made sure she was able to overcome that. Similarly, we should fix our target straight and move forward despite difficulties.
3. Never Give Up – pain is all I see. I saw her rollover and bumped her head, slammed the tiles, dropped on bums countless of time. Despite the pain, she still wants to learn to walk. So pain is good.
4. Don’t Give a Sh*t – pardon the wording but that’s what she does. Everytime we cautioned her, she’d look up, smile and move forward. Similarly, we shouldn’t give a damn what people think of us, what matters most is what you think of yourself.
5. Have Faith in Yourself – she believed and convinced she had the ability to do it (eventhough she doesn’t). Likewise, we must believe in ourself before we can get anything going.
The common belief is, kids would fall sick before they can do something new, unfortunately, I was the victim here. I got sick the day she could walk. It was also a blessing in disguise, day off + caught on camera = awesome dad moment *bling*
Written on 1 October '14 under Aisyah and Me
Teaching Sara Trigger Words
Gosh it’s been a while since I updated anything here. Good thing is, I’ve narrowed down my readership, so it does feel a little private. That aside, I’ve already started teaching Sara some trigger words.
Clap – she’d clap and grin ear to ear, showing her chipmunk tooth.
Raise your Hand – she’d only raised it up to her shoulder. Lazy kot?
Salam – she’d shake hand a like a gentleman, no kiss on the hand
Flying Kiss – she’d point to her lower lip and out. No muahs sound.
SARA (stern tone) – she’d throw anything she’s holding. Most of the time, she’s holding a lump of dust or hair.
Sara is 10 months old. She has started taking a few baby steps when she was 9 month old, but having difficulties stabilizing her postures. She’d fall and get up, try again and again. It must be painful. That’s what we (as an adult) should be doing, pick ourselves up after every failures.
Get up and go!
Written on 5 September '14 under Sara
I See Fatherhood Differently Now
When I was younger, I used to imagine how my kid(s) would look like. Imagined how I’d changed their diapers, teach their first word, read bedtime stories and a many things a father would do. Yes, I am one of those few boys who love kids. I was the strange one.
Despite having a soft spot for kids, I never wanted to own the responsibilities of raising a human being. It was too much to handle for me.
But God have His way, we were blessed with a beautiful child.
The tiny chores, changing diapers, patting to sleep, teaching words, washing off the poop were nothing mystical. It is easy when you’ve done enough to break your noob-ity. Like Miyagi said, everything is impossible if you did it the first time. Some how I enjoy being able to do this and bachelorhood seems like a thing of the past.
Now, I come home to two tired ladies, one needed an evening nap, the second couldn’t wait to have her dinner. For once, I feel needed. I feel like I finally belong somewhere and that without me, they’d miss me like crazy. I have Allah to thank.
Happy 1st Father’s Day to Me.
Written on 16 June '14 under Aisyah and Me
What Killed Blogging? And 3 Ways to Fight Back for Traffic
Blogging used to be fun, especially when you received comments, whether it’s funny, thought provoking, witty, shitty, including the plain boring yes-sir-what-ever-you-say-is-right. All these comments are makes a blog lively.
Now you’ve got to compete for attention, popularity and time. I have facebook, twitter, instagram and whatsapp to blame for that. And 3/4 are owned by facebook.
What does that tell you? The limited attention that people pour in to reading blogs.
But the trend are subsiding, people tend to ditch mainstream. People are looking back for quality content to put them out of misery. Someone they can relate to. Something they can share a passion with. Some means of making additional money. Whatever it is, everybody is looking for something.
So here are 3 points that will make your blog spring back to action.
1. Focus on Title & Content.
If you write like a robot, you probably end up reading your own content. Even Siri can perform humanly response, you can do better. Readers naturally spend 5 seconds (or less) and decide to continue reading and the next 5 seconds for the intro. So make that 10 seconds count. Never EVER EVER EVER (3 times) write a misleading title. If you were caught once, you’re doomed. Nobody likes to be cheated.
2. Simplistic Design.
Let me tell you something, people hate banner ads. HATE as in you being handed out flyers as you reach the ground floor from the 1st floor escalator, you tell yourself to just throw it away no matter how cool the design is. More banners = more people hate it. Indirectly, this will affect how they feel about your blog. Mobile friendly is no longer an option (NH is not mobile friendly *knocks on head*), it’s a must.
3. Speed of Loading.
The judgement is, does your title suck? If no, proceed. Then is it too much clutter (filled with banner)? If no proceed. The last, is it slow? If no then read.
As always, good luck. Do let me know if you have further points to add. Would love to hear your input.
Written on 5 June '14 under Serious Matters